Feline Behaviorist Pam Johnson-Bennett is the author of a number of award-winning and critically acclaimed books, including Think Like a Cat and Psycho Kitty. The innovative methods described in all her books are based on Pam's unique way of training by actually understanding the way a cat thinks. She makes numerous television appearances including CNN, Fox News Channel, and National Geographic specials, as well as being a popular guest on many nationally syndicated radio programs. She is now considered to be one of the leading experts on feline behavior.

Q: I have a seven-year-old domestic shorthaired cat named Bailey. I also have a 20-month-old daughter. I really want the two of them to become friends, but Bailey doesn't really want anything to do with my daughter. My daughter is becoming more interested and curious about Bailey, and whenever she tries to approach Bailey, the cat hisses, arches her back and bats at her with her paw. What can I do to improve this situation? Why does Bailey become so defensive around my daughter? I would appreciate any suggestions you might have!

A: It's not unusual for a cat to become leery around a baby--especially a toddler. The sudden and often uncoordinated movements, along with the high-pitched squeals of a baby, can be alarming. Also, young children, because they lack dexterity, often end up grabbing a fistful of fur or pet too aggressively. Your cat doesn't understand that your daughter is excited and happy to interact with her, but just lacks the coordination.

Help your cat form a positive association with your daughter's presence. Offer treats to Bailey when your daughter is in the room. To avoid interfering with Bailey's nutrition, break up the treats into small pieces and just give a tiny piece at a time. Keep treats in your pocket so you can reward her immediately. Show your daughter how to offer Bailey a treat. Have your daughter place the treat on the floor in front of her so Bailey doesn't have to get too close too soon.

A great way to start trust-building is through playtime. Start by holding your daughter in your lap while using a fishing pole toy to play with Bailey. Do this when your daughter is relaxed. The fishing pole keeps Bailey far enough away yet close enough to associate the presence of your daughter with the fun she's having.

Teach your child how to use the fishing pole toy to play with Bailey. The key is to teach your daughter to remain still and let the toy move so it doesn't frighten Bailey. Make sure she doesn't poke at Bailey or move the toy too quickly.

Finally, make sure Bailey has some safe retreats so she can escape from an excited toddler. A cat tree is a perfect option. Teach your daughter that when Bailey is in her cat tree, or when she's eating, sleeping or using the litter box , she isn't to be disturbed.